Embrace nonviolence at the level of speech, thought, and action.
That sounds easy, doesn't it? The yoga sutras say that when nonviolence in speech, thought, and action is established, one's aggressive nature is relinquished and others abandon hostility in one's presence.
I am ashamed by my violent nature. No, I don't go around verbally or physically attacking people. Most people are probably completely unaware how violent I really am.
I have violent thoughts. Thoughts of disgust, even hatred, toward those who disappoint me. I ruminate about the ways I think they have hurt me, abandoned me, their lack of care for me.
It's all about me. I am ashamed